Travel meets

Travel Meets!!!

So what is a "travel meet?" A travel meet is when a potential SD wants to have you come to him, meaning you are required to travel. In the SD/SB world, a lot of men travel and/or reside in different locations and want to bring you to them. This can be a fun experience (Travel for free, why not!) But there a some safety rules you should always follow.

First time travel meets.

A first time travel meet is when you are initially meeting a potential SD. This is not later on in the arrangement when he invites you to travel with him. A lot of women are opposed to traveling to actually meet someone, but in a lot of cases it can be a fun experience. You get to travel for free and you are usually well taken care of while you are there. However there is a couple rules I always follow when I travel for the first time to someone. Here they are...

1) I always ask that my flight be round trip and paid upfront either directly by the gentleman or by money provided to me through the gentleman. A lot of men will give you the "Ill fly you out here see how it goes and then we will get you a flight back." Never ever do this. You could very well end up stranded, and or paying for your own flight back. Keep in mind you can always adjust your flight if you get there and want to stay longer. A lot of men will also be skeptical to give you the money to buy your own flight. This is a valid feeling, as many girls take the money and run. If he insists on booking for you, decided on the dates, and then you can both look online for something that works. All you have to do is provide your name and DOB. A lot of women like to keep this personal, but in cases like these it's impossible.

2) I always have a hotel booked under my name. While a lot of women opt to stay at the gentleman's home, I highly advise against this. Keep in mind you are meeting this person for the first time. You could be walking into a not so pleasant situation. What if he's not who he said, what if you guys don't click, etc , etc. For the first meeting it's always good to have your own place to stay at, that way if things don't work out as planned you are not stuck at his place, or worse stuck paying for your own place. I always ask that he either provide me with the means to pay for the hotel, or he pays directly upfront and books it in my name. Another point to be cautious about is him saying he will pay once you get there. You always want everything taken care of upfront. What if he doesn't show, what if he refuses to pay once your there, etc , etc. Again you would be stuck.

3) I always tell someone where I am going. It doesn't matter what you say, but tell a friend, family member, or someone your close to where you will be and how long. When I travel, I always just tell a close friend I am traveling with another friend or for work. In the rare case something goes wrong, at least someone knows where you are.

4) I always bring enough money to make it by for the time I am there. Normally the gentleman will take care of you and your expenses, however in the case he isn't who he claimed, or you guys don't click, you need to make sure you can get by till you get home.

Now its story time!!! Here is a great story of a friend of mine who traveled to meet a potential SD and didn't follow the rules above.

A friend of mine, who also uses SA.com received an offer from a gentleman who wanted to fly her to FL to meet him for a weekend. She gathered information on him, did her best background check, and when everything seemed good, she accepted. He purchased her flight upfront and said he owned a large home where she could stay with her own room and whatnot. She accepted and two weeks later she flew to FL. When the gentleman picked her up he was in fact the man from the pictures but something seemed off. She went along anyway and drove to his home. This is where things went from suspicious, to downright bad. He lived in a small one bedroom, that was in an apartment complex. His place was old, very messy, and he smoked inside. This is where the above rules would have come in handy. She tried to stay one night but couldn't stand it. She ended up leaving and booking a hotel room because it was too expensive to change her flight. The gentleman didn't offer to pay for any of her meals, any outings, or the switch to the hotel. The trip ended up costing her a couple hundred dollars and she was miserable. It turned out that the man was in fact partially who he claimed, however he had been fired almost 6 months back. He currently had very little savings and no income.

Aside from this story, there are tons of similar ones I can share but I won't bore you. Moral of the story is that you should always be prepared for the worst but hope for the best.